On a page for a group I visit on FB, someone posted an article from a divorce coach with the title of the “benefits of being a divorced woman“.
Here they are: Strength, Compassion, Creativity, Self-discipline, Self-direction and Initiative.
You know when we talk about how mean women and girls are to each other? This article is a prime example.
My response, as a married woman for over 21 years, is that this article is mean-spirited and divisive. I and many of my friends, both married and un-married, have all of those benefits and more.
However, it is not because I am a married that I possess any of these things, it is because I honor myself and do my own work. If one is willing to do their own work no matter their marital status, they can develop these traits. If one is not willing to do their own work, they will not develop these traits no matter if they marry, divorce or stay single their entire life. This is simple and easy to understand.
Don’t tell me that one must go through something in order to find these types of benefits. What is next? In order to get the benefit of health, one must get a life threatening disease? In order to get the benefit of life, someone must die? In order to get the benefit of love, one must learn to hate? Hogwash!
Yes, I understand that getting divorced may be difficult, but come on ladies and gents – Strength, Compassion, Creativity, Self-discipline, Self-direction and Initiative are not guaranteed by-products of going through the divorce process.
Do yourself a favor and do your own work in all of your relationships and the benefits you reap will be rich.
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