A client asked me the following question:
What do you recommend when telling your truth in person is not possible?
There are many reasons why telling the truth may not be possible.
- The person you want to tell the truth to is no longer in your life.
- Every time you start, the person says something like:
- You should be over that by now.
- I didn’t mean anything by it.
- You are just overly sensitive.
- The person you need to talk with is dead
I am sure you can think of others.
So, what do you DO when you want/need to say something to someone and it is not possible?
One way I have found to tell your truth when the other person is unavailable:
Write a letter.
Did you think I was going to say that? Thought so.
BUT, this letter is different.
- I want you to get the biggest piece of paper that you can. Poster paper is great
- Get your favorite writing implement. Thick, permanent marker is great.
- Find some time when and a place where you will not be disturbed. Really. You. Alone.
- Visualize the person sitting somewhere in the room with you but NOT able to touch or disturb you.
- Begin talking out loud to the person.
- Write down as much as you can but don’t wait for your hand to catch up with your voice or vice versa
- Keep talking.
- Keep writing.
- When you are done, make the person disappear – however you want to do this is fine with me.
- Remember this is YOUR visualization
- Read what you have written.
- Take a break.
- Get some exercise.
- Drink some water.
- Go back to the paper and write anything else you need.
- THEN
- Create a piece of art work out of the paper. It can be anything:
- an airplane
- a painting – yes you can paint right over the words.
- a paper maiche’ mask
- a mandala
- It doesn’t have to be museum quality, just make some art out of the pain.
- Then…..get rid of the art!
- Burn it
- Bury it
- Chop it up into little pieces and put it in the recycle bin
- Whatever way YOU wish to rid yourself of this conversation.
- Remember, it is YOUR truth.
- Sell it – your work may be an inspiration to someone.
I know, this sounds trite, perhaps seems too simple. But, I know if you will do this (as often as you need to until your truth gets told) YOU will be strengthened.
What do you think? Will you join me in telling YOUR truth?
What are some ways you have told your truth in the past?
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